To not be a perfectionist. So I found the perfect reason to not be a perfectionist. And here’s that reason.
It doesn’t make a difference. Nobody’s listening. And if nobody’s listening, you can do whatever you’re doing and it seems like it’s private anyway.
So here is a perfect example and me manifesting me really taking advantage of not being a perfectionist. And really practicing what it takes. to produce something, and create it, and put it out, regardless of what I think the best version should be, and what the perfectionist ideals would be. Now, that also brings me to one of the biggest realizations that I’ve ever had.
Well, one of the biggest realization to date, understanding the difference between Correct, meeting a certain standard, and fulfilling the purpose. Because those are 2 separate things. Meeting a standard is one thing.
Meeting a purpose is another thing. For example, I was observing something, right? And I thought, this thing could be refined if it met the standard, the grammatical standard of whatever, of, of grammar, of how, uh, grandma is taught in school and how everyone’s supposed to say something, right?
And That’s what I actually thought. In earnest, in, in the best, the best expression, or the best way that I could, that with the best intention, That’s the, uh, that’s the thought I went with. And it wasn’t received well.
I didn’t understand that. But then, I realized something, still observing, that what I, what I considered not made in the standard, was getting the reaction, that it needed. It was it was getting the positive reaction that was needed.
And that’s when it dawned on me. It wasn’t a mistake. It wasn’t, um, It wasn’t an oops.
And it wasn’t an error. It was actually meaning what it was meant to do. Which was get engagement.
You know, perfect grammar, it’s perfect by itself, but it’s only gonna appeal to those who, who find that appealing. The grammar that was being given was tailored to the audience. So what would be considered an error or mistake or an oops?
was actually what that audience needed. And I think I am, I am grateful to learn that lesson. Because that is something I observed, and it’s, there’s this, I have a t-shirt that says, um, learn the rules.
It’s a big, bold, lettering in the front of it. And it says, learn the rules. And then kind of like find print, and it says something to the fact that I learn when to break the rules.
And the rules are the standards, where everyone follows, and everyone understands. But learn the break the rules, is when you get the full engagement, because not everyone knows, not everyone meets the standards. And everyone is important.
So if you want to get the engagement of everyone, sometimes, you gotta do what doesn’t meet the standards. That was profound. I think I’m a better person for learning that.
I have to pay attention to a whole lot more other stuff. All right, so this is one thing I like about podcasting is there’s always one can always challenge them. One thing I like about anything is one can always challenge themselves.
And the thing that I gotta keep in mind is this. Say what you’re gonna say. It’s not going viral.
Well, maybe not yet. But say what you’re going to say. No one’s listening.
This is as private as private can be. Nobody’s listening. You actually have to promote it.
You actually have to tell people, you actually have to engage people for them to listen. And thinking that things are going to go viral without saying anything. is, is a little bit of wishful thinking. So, this is a perfect opportunity to post and say.
So what could be said? Now, the question I could ask myself is how do you go viral? Um, I don’t know.
I don’t know how you go viral. Um, I guess you have to engage people. Have to talk to people, have to interact with people.
You have to tell them, hey, how you doing? This is my podcast. Are you willing to listen?
That brings me to another topic. Of working hard to engage folks, to doing all the things, it’s the standards that you think are going to engage people. Then someone comes along and really shows you, is the definition of hold my beer, watch me do this.
They come along, you’ve done all of this stuff. You’ve you’ve done, you’ve basically followed the perfectionist playbook. You’ve done all this stuff that you think you need to do, you’ve crossed your eyes, you’ve got your Ts, right?
And then you even get a couple, you even get some results, measurable results. It seems good, right? And then someone comes along that does it.
Absolutely nothing. Oh, as far as you’re concerned, nothing. Comes along with the attitude of, hold my beer, gets in front of the podium, and says, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
And they get a standing ovation. right in front of you, and all you could think is like, 1st you have to admire this. Like, what is it about this person that they could get up there and go, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And be the most successful person in the room.
Because the goal is engagement. The goal is applause. And they got a stand innovation.
And you get up there. You’ve crossed your eyes, you’ve got your tees. You have the metrics, you have everything to prove, and they’ll look at you and go.
Do you have anything else of substance to give us? And they look at you with the earnest face. And you can see all the way up the ranks, they’re looking at you the same way, and you’re going like, wow.
And that’s what you learn. Sometimes you gotta be in the right place at the right time. And, um, if you got the right vibes, it works.
But if you don’t, it doesn’t. Well, listen, this has been… Bison Heard podcast.
Uh, there is a lot coming. There’s a lot more coming, and I hope that you stay tuned. There’s also Stoutfar podcast, S-T-O-U-T-B-A-R podcast on Apple.
Podcast. It’s only on Apple. It’s a subscription-based.
You could always follow, but I encourage you to subscribe. Uh, the proceeds of this podcast will go to, um, interesting Adventures. Yeah, that’s how I could put it.
It’s going to be challenging to oneself and funding interesting projects, and more things come in and more things to talk about and more things to post. All right, this has been great. Tell a friend to tell a friend, and I’ll see you on the next podcast.
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